Having had a lovely wedding reception (v. small) just six years ago, I understand your problem. I don't think many of the guests enjoyed my idea of food bliss: salsa and bean dip and chips, chicken enchiladas and seafood burritos with tomatillo sauce. My mother-in-law, at least, thinks I'm nuts. The best way of sneaking chiles into finger foods is with sate: at our house-warming this year, folks snapped up the chicken and prawn sates. I suppose (if you must) you could use the peanut sauce and cucumber dressing with kebabs of veggies. My mother used to stick the bamboo skewers in a red cabbage to display them when she had a party, but my husband laughed (oh, so 1970s, don't ya know), so I just rested them on a plate. I use the recipe out of Nancie Mc Dermott's _Real Thai_, but there's a lot of others out there that are fine. For stand-up buffets I would recommend cold salsa and chips and hot bean dip and chips. Make your own refried beans or used good-quality canned (since I had to make them here in Britain (commercial British refrieds are disgusting) I've never gone back to canned), mix it with salsa and cheese, warm in the microwave and, if possible, stand the dip in a chafing dish or fondue set over low heat. All this can be done in advance and warming up food is something you can trust to hired staff (if you're going posh). I know you didn't ask for non-spicy food, but another dish that goes down a treat is/are dolmades. I actually like the cold vegan ones better than the warm lamb ones. Again these recipes show up constantly: I remember a good one in Bon Appetit years ago, so if you go to the Gourmet/ Conde Nast/epicurious site, you can probably find it. These always go fast at my parties and they're actually better if you make them ahead of time. For a sit-down buffet, you're right in wanting noodles. For a cold buffet, Chinese noodles and peanut sauce are right, but I've had problem with making this come out consistently. For a hot dish, may I suggest the Tortellini with Smoked Chedder Cheese and Chipotle Pepper Cream which shows up on the CH web site? It is elegant dinner party food, the tortellini could be replaced by tagliatelle and more veg., the chipotles can be reduced to suit the weak while the smoky flavour will satisfy the disappointed meat eaters (most people assume there's ham in it), and it could be prepared separately beforehand (sauce, noodles, veg.) and then warmed and assembled by minions when the time comes. If you have any trouble, I can give you the recipes. Good luck on the day and don't get frazzled by the food preparation. Cheers, Virginia PS-CHers off list, esp. Brent. Sorry to have broken off contact some months ago - family emergency. It's been fun catching up with the list, though.