Hello folks, Haven't been here in awhile because my 54 year old husband of 24 years, Murray Schiff, was diagnosed with lung cancer that had spread to the brain on Aug. 15. He passed away at home peacefully on Sept. 19, 6 weeks to the day from when he first collapsed. (There were no symptoms at all prior to that.) I am still in the numbing shock stage of things, but I know I'm going to be coming close to the edge of falling apart as that wears off. One thing I'm doing, is asking close friends not to send flowers, but to choose a potted plant instead for the garden. I have shade, sun and partly both in different areas, so I'll be able to use any kinds of plants. I have a large area with heavy live oak leaf cover. Are there plants that don't like that? It's a western exposure, and shady til past midday from the house and trees, then fully sunny. Do any of you have any ideas on making a memory garden? I'm thinking maybe of doing something with a quiet area for sitting, but obviously, haven't thought it out at all yet. If you do have suggestions, I could hold them til I'm more functional. Appreciate your input, Carol Carol J. Bova Sunland, CA can't remember if it's zone 18 or 19, but the warmer of the two.