[gardeners] Re: Forms of Address"

asidv@fbg.net (gardeners@globalgarden.com)
Thu, 2 Jul 1998 07:39:40 +0000

John Harman's worrying about feminism seems odd in an Australian, for 
in visiting  Australia I was charmed by the comfortable 
attitude shown between men and women. I liked their use of the term 
"Mate" as an endearment; they  seemed to have fun together 
and to respect the each other's worth.	
	 Actually, it may be that much of the US war between the sexes rests 
on an insufficient grounding in simple manners -- generally the 
responsibility of the parents. So when oldsters complain about the 
"attitudes" of the young, it could be an admission that we didn't 
inculcate the forms of polite society in those for whom we were 
	And please tell me, why wouldn't you step aside to let a woman 
into an elevator first? What if she got there first? Surely you 
don't barge ahead of those who preceeded you in space and time; that 
would be tantamount to saying, "I rank you" and between strangers, 
good manners says there is no rank. We can only prove "what" we are 
by our words and our actions and if we are truly "strangers" that has 
not yet been discovered. Pat